My confidence how to build one ??

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My confidence how to build one 

References 

           • easy genius, written by David Hwartr
           • What I have the confidence in myself, d. Fawzia Aldiria 

The trust acquires and develops and did not generate trust with the person when born, those people who know you they charger confident and controlled concern, and have no difficulties in dealing and coping at any time or anywhere are people who have gained self-confidence .. acquired every atom. 


Lack of self-confidence:
What does the word shortage or lack of self-confidence?? .. We often repeat this word or hear from people around us respond they lack the self-confidence?! ..
The lack of self-confidence series tied together begins:
First: a lack of self-confidence. 

Second: the belief that others see your weakness and Mt .. Which leads to:
Third: by this sense of concern and interaction with him .. That issued your behavior and bad behavior or poor, and usually nothing to do with your personality and style and this leads to:
Fourth: feeling ashamed of yourself .. This sense leads you back to the starting point .. They lack self-confidence and thus ruin your life by this negative feeling about yourself and your abilities .. But dear reader decided to stop skin yourself to those negative thoughts, and which serves as the slow death of your energies and your motives? If you made that decision to stop blaming yourself and destroy .. Start with the first step:
     -breakthrough the conception of the problem: 

Where lies the source of this attachment?? Is it because my exposure to the incident and I am small embarrassment or ridicule my abilities and compared to others? Is the reason I failed in the performance of something like School life for example ? Or a teacher or my superiors at work drew me Mordant criticism in front of colleagues? Relatives or friends role in increasing my sense of pain? Does this influence exists so far ?? ...... Tried many questions to ask yourself and reach a solution . 
Be honest with yourself . Not trying to download the others mistakes, so that up to the real roots of the problem to be able to solve them, tried to arrange your thoughts, use a pen and paper and write all the things that she believes contributed to creating the problem of non-confidence, you know the main causes and sub, which has exacerbated the problem.

      -Memory bank: 

    Leads shortage excess in self-confidence directly to the memory irregular reason with similar bank too much, you are deposited daily new ideas in your bank mental and grow deposits and be your memory ... when confronted with a problem or trying to solve a problem, you in fact, is asking bank memory: What do I know about this issue?
   The Bank provides you with your memory automatically sporadic information related to the desired position so stock your memory is the raw material for new thoughts .. when you face a difficult position Think success, not thinking of failing summoned positive thoughts .. situations in which they achieved their success by Do not say: may fail also failed in a certain position .. Yes I ll fail ... so negative thoughts creep into your bank ... and become part of the raw material for your thoughts.
 While intervention in competition with another, say: I am incompetent to be the best, do not say I'm not eligible, Mark idea .


   - Search for a solution:

 After that come to the source of the problem .. never in the search for a solution .. Once you have selected the problems of valuable solutions begin to emerge ... Sit in a quiet place and engage in dialogued with yourself, try to arrange your thoughts ... What makes me manage my fears and get my confidence back?
If relatives or friends, for example, a party or a major factor in the loss of your trust .. Try to stop your sense of persecution, not because it stopped, but it does not help you at the present but also contributes to the destruction of trust and stop your ability to rid initiative of mistrust.

Factors that increase your confidence:

       • When we put the goals and implement increases our confidence in yourself Whatever these goals .. Weather on a personnel level .. Or at the level of work .. No matter how small those goals.

       • Except responsibility .. It feels value .. Progress and do not be afraid .. defeating fear every time shows .. Do what make your fear disappears .. Be an active man .. Engage yourself different things .. use to address your fear .. Gaining more confidence.

       • Event yourself newly positive .. in the morning every day and start your day with optimism and a beautiful smile .. Ask yourself what can I do today to be more valuable? Spoke! The discourse confidence-building vitamin .. But Train to speak first.

       • tried to engage discussions and interested in educating yourself by reading in all areas .. Whenever participated in the debate adds to your confidence whenever I talked more, it is easy to talk the next time, but do not forget to take into account the methods quiet and fruitful dialogued.

       • Engage yourself with the help of others to remember that everyone else, is a human being just like you have the same abilities maybe less, but improves the display itself is a trust in his abilities than you do.

       • care in your appearance and not neglected .. It remains appearance is the first thing that falls on consideration of others.

       • Do not Forget Prayer and reading the Quran extend human tranquility and serenity .. And fear of the future go .. Make human works as much as he can and then trust in God .. In everything

1 commentaires :

  1. Ilchi Lee19 December 2013 at 01:24

    Sometime ago I've then decided to build my own collection of inspirational stories. I've grown fond of it. I also realized some thoughts about how they can be meaningful and how they can be a value to others.

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