Improving self confidence is pretty much one of our missions in life. No one wants to live their whole life disliking who they are. Regardless of who we are, we all have something wonderful about us. It is up to us to find out. Once we do, we can check that off our list for good. Once we learn to be confidant in who we are we will find ways to prove it to ourselves.
Get to know your self.
Getting to know your self. That's an odd step in improving self-confidence. We live our whole lives with ourselves. Every one knows who they are, right? It is true that we do live our whole lives with ourselves, but a small portion of people on this earth really knows who they are. Get to know who you really are by writing. Write about things that pop into your head or ask yourself questions and in detail answer them.
Writing down what is on your mind can actually help identify who you are. Writing down your day's event can identify patterns that you have or help you pinpoint your good and bad traits or habits. In other words, you are putting yourself out there in the open for you to see who you really are. Don't put more value on your bad traits or habits. Keep both traits, good and bad, on equal value systems and work on the things you see you want to change and further enhance the things you see you're good at and like about yourself.
Find something that you're good at and develop it further (its usually what you wouldn't mind doing for free).
I know we just talked about this, but this is very, very, very, important. Each and every one of us has a talent. It is up to us to find out what it is and develop it. For example, this is kind of embarrassing to say, but I'm good at exercising, I love it. Anything that has to do with exerting physical energy I am or can be very good at. Growing up, that was of no value. I wasn't in any sports and academics and being socially gifted was the only thing that surrounded me and had value. So naturally I was not able to develop my self-confidence. The one thing at the time, I was good at was never recognized.
As I got older in my late teens I started playing soccer. I was so good, considering I had just been playing for a few months. I was playing right along side the girls and guys that had been playing since they were little. Knowing that about myself gave me a start towards the journey of being self-confident
Get rid of the negative people in your life.
Get rid of the negative people in your life (or just spend less time with them). No matter how much you know about yourself and how much you develop your strengths and what your good at, it will be very difficult to improve your self-confidence if you have people in your life that are negative and put you down. I can't say anymore on that. Just get rid of them. And if for some reason that's impossible, just try to spend less time with them. You need to protect yourself, physically, emotionally and mentally. Find a tactful way of letting them know that you're on a journey to finding yourself and part of the journey is trying to improve your self-confidence.
Make a commitment to devote time to treating yourself in the way that is not destructive, but beneficial.
Exercise is a good way of doing that. There are so many benefits to exercising daily or at least three times a week. If you hate exercising, try to join a team, go dancing or learn a new sport. Either way you want to do it, make sure you devote some time everyday to yourself. Whether it is exercising, meditating, painting, working on cars or just taking a long bubble bath. Do something for yourself every day. Try to do things that will make you fall in love with yourself.
Make goals that you can accomplish immediately and acknowledge them.
I make many goals, I have long-term goals, short term-goals and immediate goals. I think the immediate goals are the ones that keep me feeling self-confident. Everyday I have something that I can be proud of myself. Something I overcame successfully.
Here are examples of what my immediate goals are:
- Get up earlier than everyone else.
- Go and workout
- Try to push myself in my workouts.
- Not give up when I want to quit
(I think this is my number one self-confidence boaster. Overcoming obstacles that make me want to quit).
I know, I know... I'm weird!!
Just about everyday, I prove to myself how great I am. Now its your turn to do the same. There is something so exceptionally beautiful and wonderful about you. Know it and praise it. You should be your number one fan, but it all starts with you knowing yourself, know who you are and love everything that is great about you.
E. Orellana
It is never too late to be what you might have been. ~George Eliot
To your self love.
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