How to Communicate Confidently
One thing common to all great
communicators is that when they speak, everybody listens. However,
communicating to people is one of the greatest fears for most of the human
beings, and especially when it comes to public speaking. Most people dread
public speaking more than death! Do you ever wonder why you don't seem to get
listened to by others even though you too have many ideas to share? Then read
on, this article is just for you.
Confident communication however, is more
than what you speak. It takes into account your body language as well.
What’s inside the mind of a Successful
Communicator?
Confident communicators aren’t a know
all
Of course, you need to have good knowledge
about the subject you are talking about, but what actually matters is not what
you say, but how you say it. Successful people don’t do different things, they
do things differently. The first step is to believe in what you say. You must
be fully convinced in the idea and only then will there be conviction in the
tone of your voice. Your voice now is equipped with the power to hold people’s
attention. Once you have conviction in your voice, and what you speak is useful
for the other people and it actually helps them or gives some credible
information, you get appreciation. This certainly peps up your self-confidence!
Confident communicators don’t let people make them nervous
Most people suffer from fearing
catastrophes that never happen. Most people tend to make a very high imaginary
impression of other people in their minds.
So much so that their mind starts believing
that other people are perfect. This creates an unfair comparison between their
own personality and the imaginary personality of other people that they create.
This thinking breeds a fear of meeting and talking to other people. It lowers
their confidence and they fear what it will be to meet and talk to these
“perfect” people. However, in real life nobody is perfect and you must realize
this. Everybody has their own set of faults and weaknesses. It’s important for
you to realize that every human being is essentially imperfect. This will give
you greater confidence to go out and face people.
Take it or leave it. You snooze, you lose
Ideally you must be the best of your moods
and carry a pleasant demeanor when you go out and meet people. However, it
might not always be possible and it may so happen that you are not fully
prepared to communicate, or you are a little tense over some other matter. A
confident communicator, though, develops an ability to keep control of his
emotions. This quality helps the communicator to keep control of the situation.
You may still not be in a good mood but you must make sure that you keep
indecisiveness at bay. Your indecision will fritter away your focus and energy
and you fail to make any impact. If you decide to communicate. Be yourself,
have faith in yourself and go ahead.
Mind your body language
Your gesture, postures and eye contact
probably talk louder than your words. Body language cuts across all barriers of
communication such as language, time, place, knowledge and so on. Your body
language starts getting interpreted unconsciously by everyone around. People
start forming impressions about you the moment you make an eye contact and body
language certainly contributes a considerably large part of the impression you
make.
A few facts you must know
- You may have a sad expression on your face because of some
other matter, but the person you are talking to may feel that you don’t
approve what he says, leading to misunderstanding.
- A steady gaze may convey intensity, anger, aggression or strong
interest. Little eye contact may imply lack of confidence or shyness.
- Open hands may convey honesty and openness; however, making a
lot of hand gestures might mean that you are being nervous.
Confident communication, including words
and gestures, is something that you do not perfect in a day. You must grab
every opportunity to communicate. Try to check your communication skills, your
strong points and the mistakes you make along with the overall effect on the
other person. Try to learn from your experiences and there is no reason why you
can’t make it. Get going. Good luck!
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