Obstacles in Building Self-Confidence
Know what’s holding you back.
It’s great that
you have decided to build your self-confidence. However, there are a few
obstacles that can keep you from achieving your goal. Most of the time, these
obstacles are so obvious that they do not seem like obstacles at all, and all
you can see is that your resolve to be self-confident is not taking you
anywhere. Therefore, it is important to become aware of these seemingly
harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you in your path. Let’s have
a look at what could be the reasons that you are not moving ahead in top gear.
Are you undisciplined?
Some people
simply have the talent to waste a lot of time without realizing it. They lack
the self-discipline to stop their actions that waste time. Imagine a situation
wherein you have a list of tasks to be completed successfully as a part of your
confidence building program. However, the moment you enter your home you
involuntarily grab the remote and start channel surfing on the idiot box. It’s
only after an hour that you realize that you have been vegetating in front of
the T.V in the time you had scheduled to do other tasks. You realize that you
have already disturbed your schedule. In a self-development program, it’s you and
only you who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to monitor your
actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on your inner graph and see to
it that it goes up! Avoid temptations and stick to your schedule.
Are you lazy and keep procrastinating?
Procrastination
is one of the greatest and most silent killers of confidence. It does not let
you complete your jobs and tasks in time; things keep mounting and finally you
get overwhelmed by all the many things that have piled up and need your
attention. The very basics of building confidence start with listing little
things that are doable. You gain more confidence to take on greater tasks and
responsibilities by successfully completing the lighter tasks at hand. However not
being prompt and delaying important things till they become urgent makes you
miss the opportunity of working on your confidence and puts you in danger of
falling back again into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting all the effort and
energy you had put into becoming aware of your low confidence trap and getting
out of it.
Does your old self keep pulling
you back?
Assume. Assume.
Assume is the technique here. Assume that you are a different person with
habits you wanted to inculcate. Imagine the way you would like to be. Imagine a
self-confident you taking things in your stride. Then try to bring into your
daily actions the way you have imagined yourself to be. “I dream by painting.
Then I paint my dream” was the technique what the great painter Vincent Van
Gogh followed. Your assumed self will make people react to you in a different
way, according to your new self. This will establish your new self to the world
and will help you keep up the new self before it becomes a habit – a second
nature! If you behave indecisively and helplessly, you will invoke
proportionate reactions from people around you, thereby reinforcing your
previous self. This throws you back again. Remember that you cannot get ahead
if you keep looking back. Realize this and stop sliding back.
Don't copy self-confidence. Do
not try to become like someone else.
One of the
greatest mistakes that people make when trying to increase their low
self-confidence is falling in love with an image of their icon who may be a
sport star or a film star or any celebrity and then they try to be like them.
This is one of the greatest mistakes that people can commit when trying in
increase their self-confidence. You have to be yourself at all costs. Getting
inspired is wonderful but merely aping these guys won't take you anywhere.
There is no need for any two people in this universe to be exactly the same.
The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you like
everyone else!
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