Showing posts with label Self-Esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-Esteem. Show all posts
The Key to Self-Esteem
Self-esteem, like happiness, is a state of
mind. It can make you feel happy, cheerful and confident. It can also make you
feel worthless, unwanted and weak. Self-esteem can best be compared to a
powerful battery. When the battery is fully charged, the individual feels
confident and raring to go; when the battery is run down the individual feels
low and wants to hide.
Obviously, individuals with low self-esteem
cannot be expected to do well in life. They will approach every issue with a
lack of confidence even though they may be fully capable of doing a job. That
is why self-belief is considered the bedrock of self-esteem. It gives an
individual the extra confidence that makes all the difference between an
achiever and a failure.
So how do you inculcate a sense of
self-belief in yourself? You will be making a big mistake if you start seeing
yourself as the most important man in your field. This cannot be called
self-belief or self-esteem. Instead it is conceit, and as everyone knows conceit
is a dangerous quality. It generates false confidence, which often becomes a
source of woes.
What you need is healthy self-esteem. This
means that you should look at yourself as an individual who is at par with his
peer group, who has nothing to feel ashamed of, and who looks at all issues
with a positive frame of mind. Healthy self-esteem also means that you are able
to differentiate between humility and self-effacement, between arrogance and
modesty, between complacency and hyperactivity.
However, to do so you must learn to accept
yourself as any other individual who will have some strengths and some
weaknesses, and who will have some good days and some bad days. You must learn
to ride out the good with the bad. Most important, you must believe in the
clichéd saying that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. It will
give you the confidence and self-belief that every individual needs in his bad
moments. This is what self-esteem is all about – a self-belief in oneself.
Those who sit and mope can never feel
happy. The same applies to those who blame the fate for their ills. Their
energies are consumed by negative emotions. These emotions are like a
whirlpool. They suck you deeper and deeper till you loose all semblance of
self-respect and self-confidence.
Don’t allow mistakes or failures to
overwhelm you. Similarly, don’t allow guilt to eat away your happiness. Accept
your mistakes. It will make you feel much better. You must always remember that
you loose self-esteem when you try to run away from problems and challenges.
Such behavior makes you weak. It also causes your self-esteem to dip. In
contrast, your self-esteem soars when you overcome a difficult situation.
Another important thing about self-esteem
is the need to look at it as a single entity. Many people derive great
happiness from their accomplishments. Their self-esteem rises when they are in
the company of people who acknowledge their success. However, the same
self-esteem plunges when they are in a family group where they are not accepted
with the same degree of warmth. They feel unhappy, and neglected, and avoid
mixing with their family members. This is escapism. It will gnaw away an
individual’s self-esteem till he becomes lonely and unhappy. It will also
impact on his professional work at some point of time or the other.
To improve your self-esteem, you also need
to be fair to yourself. Very often individuals are very harsh on themselves
when things go wrong. They plunge into a state of depression, and allow guilt
to consume them. It is quite possible that their decision may have brought
misfortune upon a family or a company that trusted them. But over-reaction will
not change things. All individuals must judge their actions fairly.
Self-flagellation is the worst form of defeat. It weakens individuals, and
destroys their self-esteem.
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By Carla Rossouw
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The Science of Getting Rich
I've written on this topic before, and now after some months of studying this program what comes to mind now is wow! If you want to get your hands on something that can really change your life, I mean really change it, then you have a winning way right here, right now, in front of you and ready for you. And tell you what-i'm willing to bet you might be ready for it too.No questions. Period. This is hands down some of the best material I have ever come across. As bob proctor says himself this stuff should have been in school programs. And the guy is definitely qualified-he's one of the best in his field. He's been studying this stuff for 50 years, and you know what? He's living the life of his dreams. And he says you can too!
Do you believe that you have anything to do whatsoever with what occurs in your life? Do you believe you have any control over what results show up in your life ? Or have you thought about this at all, happy to sit on the sidelines as a bystander in your life, simply taking what comes ? Maybe too busy paying the bills, doing the things we all do in life? Yes, it's easy to do, but common now, honestly, haven't you ever wondered what it would be like to really live ?
.Well let's get started then. What's this guy and his program about ? The guy and the program are all about life. And how you can change yours. If you are interested in the best life you can have. If you want to experience change for the better, and learn how you have control over the results in your life.Bob's program, "the science of getting rich", will grab hold of you and open your eyes to the abilities you hold within you, and the great life you are capable of .
. That's right, are, capable of, each and everyone of us. We've let our abilities be taken away from us, period. We had them intact when we were children. They were simply conditioned out of us throughout life. We were taught they were not important. But we sure felt great back then didn't we? Do you remember the wonderful things you dreamed of when you were a child? The imagination you had? All the things you were going to do and be ? Was there ever any doubt in your mind about any of it? Did life seem great everyday? Now, a question? Do you feel that way now? If so, thumbs up, you're still connected with those abilities and the power inside yourself! You know what though? For most of us these abilities are buried halfway to china. And our lives probably reflect the fact in a lot of ways.
Are you satisfied with your life right now? Really satisfied? full filled? Want to learn how to use your abilities and power of your own thought again to create the life you want? Bob's program will show you how. Simple as that.
You can sometimes recognize these edited and/or revised versions of "The Science of Getting Rich" by a slight change in title from that of the original. Other times, you'll find someone has added his or her name as a co-author or editor of the book.
This program offers many hours of extensive information from one of the best minds in the business. The equivalent of 20 CD's worth of priceless knowledge. Combined with a workbook and interactive capability to communicate with others participating. All accessible instantly online. Extremely well produced, with with Rev. Michael Beckwith and Jack Canfield taking active roles, also two of the best in the business.Nothing of value is ever for free, however tremendous value is offered here for the price, which is quite affordable and 100% money back guaranteed. These people are very well known and bonafide. What price are you willing to pay for information allowing you to create freedom of time, choice, passion and money in your life? Is the price of a morning cup of coffee for a few months worth a chance to accomplish that? It was for me, and I listen to this material everyday- I like it that much.
In my opinion, any change of wording, however minor, takes away from the original meaning of what Wallace D. Wattles wrote and thus changes our understanding of it.I strongly encourage you stay away from edited and/or revised versions of "The Science of Getting Rich" and stick to the original.I know this sounds like simple common sense, but you'd be surprised at how many people don't do it. I can tell by some of the questions I get.Occasionally, as you read "The Science of Getting Rich", you'll come across words you may not understand or don't make sense to you in the context in which Wallace D. Wattles used them.
None of us knows the meaning of every word there is in the English language. Many words have multiple meanings. And, keep in mind, Wallace D. Wattles wrote "The Science of Getting Rich" nearly one hundred years ago. Many words that were in common usage then are no longer commonly used today and many words that were used back then were used with a different meaning than the meaning we'd attach to them today.A good example of this is the word "check".
If you look up the word check in a dictionary, you'll see it has a number of meanings. One of the meanings is to examine something to see if it's true or satisfactory. Another meaning is to stop or slow something down.In Chapter 9 of "The Science of Getting Rich", Wallace D. Wattles wrote:"But you can check all this by starting a negative impression in the Formless Substance."
His thoughts of walking became a habit. He believed he was part of a power bigger than himself, and expected his desire would have to be answered.His ability to achieve what he did is what Bob explains in this program, and much more. We all have such power of ability but get caught up in the day to day stuff and aren't aware anymore. Bob Proctor thinks we are waking up to this in large numbers, and is hoping to help through his work.Look out the window at the countryside. Every tree, blade of grass, leaf works perfectly all the time. Growing on it's own. The water flows in the creek. The planets circle in perfect order.
We have to become that person who has wealth in our minds before we can have that wealth in our hands. This is the beauty of the book, "The Science of Getting Rich". It makes that transformation more of a science than an art. We have more control of things that can be attained through a scientific or quantitative way. Before we can transform our minds, we have to first decide that it is something that we want to attain. A great chapter in this book is on the attitude of gratitude. We should be thankful of our blessings. This is conducive to transforming our minds to get rich.
On proven results.With the ability of particle accelerators they have been able to divide ANYTHING on earth to the point of it being energy alone. One same energy of which everything comes from and of which everything is a part of. Including us. And this energy is affected by thought. This is proven beyond a doubt scientifically. So the thought "if we can hold it in the mind, we can hold it in the hand is scientifically proven". Through the power of thought.
Bob Proctor's Program is based on the works of some very fine minds and some very substantial science as well. What a great feeling to have the ability to create the results we want in our life through simply learning to work with our thoughts in ways that are best for us. And he's certainly not alone in this field. This decade trillions have been spent on research on the human mind and brain. Thoughts can actually be measured now with very sophisticated equipment in real time.
By Mary R. Joyce
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The Difference Between Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
The terms self-esteem and self-confidence are often used interchangeably when referring to how one feels about themselves. Although they are very similar, they are two different concepts. It is important to understand their roles when looking to improve your overall sense of self.
What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. Self-esteem develops from experiences and situations that have shaped how you view yourself today.
Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities and can vary from situation to situation. I may have healthy self-esteem, but low confidence about situations involving math (this is true).
When you love yourself, your self-esteem improves, which makes you more confident. When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of esteem. You can work on both at the same time.
What Does Low Self-Esteem Look Like?
A friend told me she has low self-esteem; she constantly feels “I’m not good enough.” This concept has developed over her entire life. She has been in a series of unhealthy relationships, is frequently belittled by her boss, and constantly tells herself “I suck, I’m not worth it.” Recognizing she has this negative script, she is now better able to change it.
On the positive side, she is confident about being an amazing chef, a caring friend, and having the ability to be super-organized. She knows and believes this about herself and feels confident in these areas. By focusing on the things she is confident in and working on changing her negative self-talk, she is improving both her self-esteem and self-confidence.
Ideas for Improving Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
If you are having trouble finding areas you are confident in, try these tips.
- Think of qualities others say you excel in. Even if you believe them slightly, this is a step in the right direction.
- Stop the negative chatter. Shut it up! Start to think of contradictions to these statements.
- Would you say it to a friend? If not, stop saying these statements to yourself.
- Make a list of strengths. Think of what you would say about yourself if you were on a job interview.
The more we recognize our challenges with self-confidence and self-esteem, the more aware we become of improvements that can be made. This is when positive changes occur.
