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Key to Interview Success





Searching for employment is one of the stressful times in anyone’s life.  The process of preparing a resume, finding the perfect job, and completing an interview may send even the soundest individual into a panic attack.  Whereas a resume presents your abilities and experiences on paper, an interview represents you in the first person.  The pressure to present yourself in the best light possible in a short, controlled environment is exceptional, so it is key to keep an air of self confidence during this time.  Although there is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance, a prospective employee that enters an interview poised and put together already has an edge on the competition.

Dressing for success is not just a time worn cliché.  Individuals who show up to an interview in a thoughtful, put-together outfit will best convey the immediate sense of self confidence.  When choosing an interview outfit, carefully consider both the employer and the job opportunity.  Match your clothing to the mood of the office is a must.  If you are interviewing for a position in a conservative law firm, consider conservative attire.  However, if you are interviewing at an up-start internet company, you may want to rethink conservative attire.  Regardless of the individual items you choose to wear, ensuring they are clean, smartly pressed, and well tailored will make all the difference. 

In addition to your dress, you should ensure your personal appearance reflects that of a potential employee.  For those individuals with physical forms of self-expression, i.e. piercings, tattoos, or extreme dyed hair, you may find interviewers have difficulty getting past your initial appearance.  Before you begin the interview process, take time to review the company’s specific rules regarding appearance.  Ensuring your presence is neat will lend to your air of self confidence and appeal to your prospective employer.  Take time to evaluate your appearance.  Do you need a haircut?  Are your nails neatly trimmed and clean?  Make all necessary appointments a day or two before your interview.

Of course a potential employer is not just looking for an individual with a put-together outfit and a clean, neatly appearance.  Employers are looking for individuals who have the capacity to successfully complete the job at hand.  Whatever the job, affiliate yourself with the requirements necessary to fulfill the task.  You will soon find that when you are confident in the task, you will exude self confidence and positively influence the interview.  Create a list of potential questions an employer may ask in an interview setting.  These questions can relate to your educational background, previous work experience, or your capability to handle the specific job.  Once you have created this list, prepare your responses to these questions.  Ask a friend or family member to pose as a mock interviewer in order to better prepare you for the actual interview.

Your actions during the interview can also affect the overall outcome.  Individuals who possess a great deal of self confidence walk with their head held high, make eye contact, and have firm handshakes.  Self confident individuals do not fidget, pull on their clothing, or make movements with their feet.  Furthermore, you should take care to speak of your positive attributes and not focus on your negatives or weaknesses.  Be careful not to brag or boast about your current position, educational background, social status, or work experiences.  Again, there is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance, and few employers wish to add an arrogant individual to a team of employees.  Instead, focus on how your positive aspects can best benefit the job, team, and company.  However you choose to tackle your job interview, remember to bring your best attitude and self confidence.

Building Your Self-Confidence at Work




Many people wish they felt more secure about their abilities on the job. In other words, they're looking for increased self-confidence when it comes to performing the work, dealing with coworkers, and handling tough situations. If you're one of these people, you're not alone. What can you do to feel more self-assured about your job?

First, remember that you are not your job. That is, if you make a mistake at work, this does not mean that you are stupid, worthless, or that you're in the wrong position. It's all too easy to take mistakes personally, seeing them as a reflection of your true person rather than for what it is: a mistake. Even though it may not always appear so, everyone makes mistakes from time to time. The best way to deal with a mistake is to own up to it right away and present a solution. This shows that you are honest, and by presenting ways to fix the problem, your boss can send you on your way to deal with the issue. Acting honestly and straightforwardly is best for you--you'll feel better about yourself--and best for the company (which again will help you feel better).

Another common issue is feeling insecure when it comes to coworkers. Many people feel that they do not fit in, are unsure how to handle conflict, or have an overbearing coworker or boss that they don't know how to communicate with. Any of these feelings can wear at your self-esteem. You may feel you have nothing to offer the group, whether socially or on projects, you avoid conflict, and may allow others to step on you. If socialization is a problem, it will require you to step out of your comfort zone a bit. This does not mean you need to jump right in with a large company gathering; rather, take it slow by opening conversations with one or two coworkers. Chances are you'll have something in common. Asking questions about the other person is always a great way to go; just avoid questions with simple yes or no answers.

When dealing with conflict resolution and difficult employees, learning some proven communication techniques may be necessary. Consider attending a course on conflict resolution and dealing with difficult people. In the meantime, remember that the overbearing person likely has a lot of insecurities as well, and these are what cause the behavior. In the midst of conflict, do your best to avoid being pulled into argumentative situations. Don't reward the other person's behavior by getting upset or immediately backing down. If necessary, say you'll continue the conversation when everyone has had a chance to cool down. Dealing with negative coworkers is never fun. Try and remember that your self worth is not dependent on the coworker's approval, even if that person is your boss.

It could be you're feeling unsure about your skills. This one is pretty easy--learn more! Many companies offer continuing education options, will pay for schooling, or offer professional development in house. Whatever your employer offers, take advantage. If your company does not have this option, find some good books on the subject. Ask your colleagues for suggestions, or if you're a member of any type of professional group, seek advice there as well. Many of your peers will have good suggestions on what's worth looking into.

Finally, give yourself some challenges. One great way to build your self confidence at work is to take on a special project or extra work. If you choose something you feel passionate about or something in your specialty area, you can show yourself and your colleagues that you are able to produce results. Even if you fail, you're showing initiative and willingness by taking on special projects. Knowing that you put yourself out there, rather than sitting on the sidelines, can be a great confidence booster. And the same can be said for when it goes well.




Ten Tips to Increase Your Self-Confidence



Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily.  In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are ten tips that can help you build that elusive self-confidence:

  • 1. Self-confidence is found in people who have a healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth, and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don't notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.


  • 2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost you’re a self-confidence, and help you achieve bigger goals.


  • 3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goal. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly, and seek his advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.


  • 4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.


  • 5. Pay attention to how you look. Take pleasure in wearing good clothes and being well groomed. It makes you feel good. People too look at you differently. Remember that every human being wants to be found in the company of smart, intelligent, successful people. You can soon be a centre of attraction if you radiate a positive, smart look. It can very easily make the difference between success and failure.


  • 6. Don't be afraid of failures.  Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell, and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to shrug your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes, and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to overreach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.


  • 7. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in his career. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.


  • 8. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what’s going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don't focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.


  • 9. Take part in activities that you are good at. You may have excelled at things in the past and then given them up due to lack of time. Return to those activities again and see your self-confidence grow.


  • 10. Pick up a new hobby or craft that interests you. It will keep you occupied. It will also increase your self-confidence as you become more skilled in it.


Try to practice these tips as faithfully as you can, and see the difference in your life.



The Difference Between Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence


The terms self-esteem and self-confidence are often used interchangeably when referring to how one feels about themselves. Although they are very similar, they are two different concepts. It is important to understand their roles when looking to improve your overall sense of self.

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. Self-esteem develops from experiences and situations that have shaped how you view yourself today.
Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities and can vary from situation to situation. I may have healthy self-esteem, but low confidence about situations involving math (this is true).
When you love yourself, your self-esteem improves, which makes you more confident. When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of esteem. You can work on both at the same time.

What Does Low Self-Esteem Look Like?

A friend told me she has low self-esteem; she constantly feels “I’m not good enough.” This concept has developed over her entire life. She has been in a series of unhealthy relationships, is frequently belittled by her boss, and constantly tells herself “I suck, I’m not worth it.” Recognizing she has this negative script, she is now better able to change it.
On the positive side, she is confident about being an amazing chef, a caring friend, and having the ability to be super-organized. She knows and believes this about herself and feels confident in these areas. By focusing on the things she is confident in and working on changing her negative self-talk, she is improving both her self-esteem and self-confidence.

Ideas for Improving Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

If you are having trouble finding areas you are confident in, try these tips.
  • Think of qualities others say you excel in. Even if you believe them slightly, this is a step in the right direction.
  • Stop the negative chatter. Shut it up! Start to think of contradictions to these statements.
  • Would you say it to a friend? If not, stop saying these statements to yourself.
  • Make a list of strengths. Think of what you would say about yourself if you were on a job interview.
The more we recognize our challenges with self-confidence and self-esteem, the more aware we become of improvements that can be made. This is when positive changes occur.

Self confidence exercises



        Self confidence exercises are very helpful in rebuilding your self esteem. Their main goal is to help instill in you the importance of believing in what you can do and what you can accomplish. In the business world along with the dating world you need self-confidence to achieve peak performance For instance, you will never have the courage to approach a woman if you don't have self confidence. You will never have the courage to ask her for her phone number. You will never have the courage to ask her out for a date. Without self-confidence, you will never live the life of your dreams. It’s as simple as that! Fortunately though, there are things you can do to regain and develop your self confidence. And one of the most effective of these is by performing self confidence exercises.

To help you get started, here are some self confidence exercises and ideas that you can use :

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  Why do we have to foster self confidence?
       There are people all over the world who require self confidence. They think it difficult to face demanding conditions and take a large amount of stress. They don't even have the confidence of talking to someone whom they are interested in. They find it tough to approach new persons and start a conversation. They are uncomfortable speaking in front of many people at school. These problems usually begin from childhood and are very much influenced by the behavior of members of the family and acquaintances. All these things foil anyone from living life freely and expressing himself properly. A person without self confidence before any competition loses mentally and fails to give the very best performance. Self confidence will not only make him successful but will even make him love himself which is very necessary to live happily.
  How to have self confidence?
   

THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (sequel habit 6 )

HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE
         To put it simply, synergy means "two heads are better than one." Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems. But it doesn't just happen on its own. It's a process, and through that process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table.

THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (sequel habit 4 )


HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN
         Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.

         Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it's not fair, and I'm going to make sure you don't get anymore. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?

THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (sequel habit 3)



HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
      To live a more balanced existence, you have to recognize that not doing everything that comes along is okay. There's no need to overextend yourself. All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary and then focus on your highest priorities.

       Habit 1 says, "You're in charge. You're the creator." Being proactive is about choice. Habit 2 is the first, or mental, creation. Beginning with the End in Mind is about vision. Habit 3 is the second creation, the physical creation. This habit is where Habits 1 and 2 come together. It happens day in and day out, moment-by-moment. It deals with many of the questions addressed in the field of time management. But that's not all it's about. Habit 3 is about life management as well--your purpose, values, roles, and priorities. What are "first things?" First things are those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the personal priorities you established in Habit 2.
by stephen covey

THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (sequel habit 2)


HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
         So, what do you want to be when you grow up? That question may appear a little trite, but think about it for a moment. Are you--right now--who you want to be, what you dreamed you'd be, doing what you always wanted to do? Be honest. Sometimes people find themselves achieving victories that are empty--successes that have come at the expense of things that were far more valuable to them. If your ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step you take gets you to the wrong place faster.

         

THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE



HABIT 1 : BE PROACTIVE
          Your life doesn't just "happen." Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you. The choices, after all, are yours. You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. You choose ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You choose fear. Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new choice. And in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results.

       

5 Power Tips to Gaining Self Confidence !


         Self confidence is a trait highly important for your success in life, regardless of your field of work. If you're either an athlete or a politician, self confidence help you face your daily challenges and achieve more. This article will describe 5 power tips to gaining self confidence easily.
          Listen and Act on your Inner Self. The first tip is simply. Most people listen to their inner self but are to afraid to take action and really do what they know they should do. Your want to approach this attractive women, and you know you should, but you don't. Why? Because you don't respect your inner self enough to do as he wishes, what is best for you. Do not care about what others think of you and just do what feels right to you.

Self Confidence Improvements


      Improving self confidence is pretty much one of our missions in life. No one wants to live their whole life disliking who they are. Regardless of who we are, we all have something wonderful about us. It is up to us to find out. Once we do, we can check that off our list for good. Once we learn to be confidant in who we are we will find ways to prove it to ourselves.
Get to know your self.
     Getting to know your self. That's an odd step in improving self-confidence. We live our whole lives with ourselves. Every one knows who they are, right? It is true that we do live our whole lives with ourselves, but a small portion of people on this earth really knows who they are. Get to know who you really are by writing. Write about things that pop into your head or ask yourself questions and in detail answer them.
      Writing down what is on your mind can actually help identify who you are. Writing down your day's event can identify patterns that you have or help you pinpoint your good and bad traits or habits. In other words, you are putting yourself out there in the open for you to see who you really are. Don't put more value on your bad traits or habits. Keep both traits, good and bad, on equal value systems and work on the things you see you want to change and further enhance the things you see you're good at and like about yourself.
      Find something that you're good at and develop it further (its usually what you wouldn't mind doing for free).
      I know we just talked about this, but this is very, very, very, important. Each and every one of us has a talent. It is up to us to find out what it is and develop it. For example, this is kind of embarrassing to say, but I'm good at exercising, I love it. Anything that has to do with exerting physical energy I am or can be very good at. Growing up, that was of no value. I wasn't in any sports and academics and being socially gifted was the only thing that surrounded me and had value. So naturally I was not able to develop my self-confidence. The one thing at the time, I was good at was never recognized.
      As I got older in my late teens I started playing soccer. I was so good, considering I had just been playing for a few months. I was playing right along side the girls and guys that had been playing since they were little. Knowing that about myself gave me a start towards the journey of being self-confident
      Get rid of the negative people in your life.
      Get rid of the negative people in your life (or just spend less time with them). No matter how much you know about yourself and how much you develop your strengths and what your good at, it will be very difficult to improve your self-confidence if you have people in your life that are negative and put you down. I can't say anymore on that. Just get rid of them. And if for some reason that's impossible, just try to spend less time with them. You need to protect yourself, physically, emotionally and mentally. Find a tactful way of letting them know that you're on a journey to finding yourself and part of the journey is trying to improve your self-confidence.
      Make a commitment to devote time to treating yourself in the way that is not destructive, but beneficial.
      Exercise is a good way of doing that. There are so many benefits to exercising daily or at least three times a week. If you hate exercising, try to join a team, go dancing or learn a new sport. Either way you want to do it, make sure you devote some time everyday to yourself. Whether it is exercising, meditating, painting, working on cars or just taking a long bubble bath. Do something for yourself every day. Try to do things that will make you fall in love with yourself.
     Make goals that you can accomplish immediately and acknowledge them.
      I make many goals, I have long-term goals, short term-goals and immediate goals. I think the immediate goals are the ones that keep me feeling self-confident. Everyday I have something that I can be proud of myself. Something I overcame successfully.
      Here are examples of what my immediate goals are:
  1. Get up earlier than everyone else.
  2. Go and workout
  3. Try to push myself in my workouts.
  4. Not give up when I want to quit
      (I think this is my number one self-confidence boaster. Overcoming obstacles that make me want to quit).
      I know, I know... I'm weird!!
     Just about everyday, I prove to myself how great I am. Now its your turn to do the same. There is something so exceptionally beautiful and wonderful about you. Know it and praise it. You should be your number one fan, but it all starts with you knowing yourself, know who you are and love everything that is great about you.
E. Orellana
It is never too late to be what you might have been. ~George Eliot
To your self love.
This is your life, this is your happiness, this is your peace. Take it and don't ever let it go.
Start your journey by clicking on the link above.

Self Confidence " Positive Thinking "

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.

Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.

In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.

Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.

Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself


As Maria Robinson once said, “ Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

My confidence how to build one ??


My confidence how to build one 

References 


           • easy genius, written by David Hwartr
           • What I have the confidence in myself, d. Fawzia Aldiria 


The trust acquires and develops and did not generate trust with the person when born, those people who know you they charger confident and controlled concern, and have no difficulties in dealing and coping at any time or anywhere are people who have gained self-confidence .. acquired every atom. 



Lack of self-confidence:
What does the word shortage or lack of self-confidence?? .. We often repeat this word or hear from people around us respond they lack the self-confidence?! ..
The lack of self-confidence series tied together begins:
First: a lack of self-confidence. 


Second: the belief that others see your weakness and Mt .. Which leads to:
Third: by this sense of concern and interaction with him .. That issued your behavior and bad behavior or poor, and usually nothing to do with your personality and style and this leads to:
Fourth: feeling ashamed of yourself .. This sense leads you back to the starting point .. They lack self-confidence and thus ruin your life by this negative feeling about yourself and your abilities .. But dear reader decided to stop skin yourself to those negative thoughts, and which serves as the slow death of your energies and your motives? If you made that decision to stop blaming yourself and destroy .. Start with the first step:



     -breakthrough the conception of the problem: 


Where lies the source of this attachment?? Is it because my exposure to the incident and I am small embarrassment or ridicule my abilities and compared to others? Is the reason I failed in the performance of something like School life for example ? Or a teacher or my superiors at work drew me Mordant criticism in front of colleagues? Relatives or friends role in increasing my sense of pain? Does this influence exists so far ?? ...... Tried many questions to ask yourself and reach a solution . 

Be honest with yourself . Not trying to download the others mistakes, so that up to the real roots of the problem to be able to solve them, tried to arrange your thoughts, use a pen and paper and write all the things that she believes contributed to creating the problem of non-confidence, you know the main causes and sub, which has exacerbated the problem.

      -Memory bank: 

    Leads shortage excess in self-confidence directly to the memory irregular reason with similar bank too much, you are deposited daily new ideas in your bank mental and grow deposits and be your memory ... when confronted with a problem or trying to solve a problem, you in fact, is asking bank memory: What do I know about this issue?
   The Bank provides you with your memory automatically sporadic information related to the desired position so stock your memory is the raw material for new thoughts .. when you face a difficult position Think success, not thinking of failing summoned positive thoughts .. situations in which they achieved their success by Do not say: may fail also failed in a certain position .. Yes I ll fail ... so negative thoughts creep into your bank ... and become part of the raw material for your thoughts.
 While intervention in competition with another, say: I am incompetent to be the best, do not say I'm not eligible, Mark idea .


   - Search for a solution:

After that come to the source of the problem .. never in the search for a solution .. Once you have selected the problems of valuable solutions begin to emerge ... Sit in a quiet place and engage in dialogued with yourself, try to arrange your thoughts ... What makes me manage my fears and get my confidence back?
If relatives or friends, for example, a party or a major factor in the loss of your trust .. Try to stop your sense of persecution, not because it stopped, but it does not help you at the present but also contributes to the destruction of trust and stop your ability to rid initiative of mistrust.



Factors that increase your confidence:

       • When we put the goals and implement increases our confidence in yourself Whatever these goals .. Weather on a personnel level .. Or at the level of work .. No matter how small those goals.


       • Except responsibility .. It feels value .. Progress and do not be afraid .. defeating fear every time shows .. Do what make your fear disappears .. Be an active man .. Engage yourself different things .. use to address your fear .. Gaining more confidence.


       • Event yourself newly positive .. in the morning every day and start your day with optimism and a beautiful smile .. Ask yourself what can I do today to be more valuable? Spoke! The discourse confidence-building vitamin .. But Train to speak first.


       • tried to engage discussions and interested in educating yourself by reading in all areas .. Whenever participated in the debate adds to your confidence whenever I talked more, it is easy to talk the next time, but do not forget to take into account the methods quiet and fruitful dialogued.


       • Engage yourself with the help of others to remember that everyone else, is a human being just like you have the same abilities maybe less, but improves the display itself is a trust in his abilities than you do.


       • care in your appearance and not neglected .. It remains appearance is the first thing that falls on consideration of others.


       • Do not Forget Prayer and reading the Quran extend human tranquility and serenity .. And fear of the future go .. Make human works as much as he can and then trust in God .. In everything