I was told today by a potential client that my "" shines through. I used to think if someone called me sweet that implied I was not smart or capable or professional. I thought people would pat me on the head and pinch my cheek and say, "Oh, isn't she sweet" and walk away.
As it turns out, people feel safe birthing their books with someone they find sweet. Writing a book can be a personal, and transformational, journey, and they want someone who truly cares. This shows how we can get hung up in our insecurities, and the conversations in our head are not always accurate.
My boys see a cool car and they say, "Sweet!" Or a job as a lifeguard checking out the opposite sex in their bikinis is certainly a "sweet" gig. And when we hit our stride in business or in sports, we say we found the "sweet" spot.
Sweet is a good thing.
Little kids are sweet. My husband is sweet. Our boys are sweet. When I call them sweet, I mean it as a glowing compliment. My youngest son, a college freshman, is one of the sweetest people to ever walk this planet. His heart is as big as Texas, and I know that will serve him well no matter what profession he chooses, and right now he's majoring in Accounting and Finance.
Do I think his sweetness will hinder his ability to get clients and be a success in the business world? Of course not. I tell him to just be his awesome self because he is smart, capable, and professional. And sweet.
Isn't it interesting that the loving appreciation we show others, we so often withhold from ourselves. I'm not alone here. I know many women, and some men, who are very hard on themselves. We would rather find fault that cut ourselves some slack.
No more.
Fears and insecurities and doubts are simply a part of life. We don't have to listen to them. Make a pinky promise with me right now that we will treat ourselves with love and respect, and if others see qualities in us, we will honor that. We/I will not twist a kind statement like "You have a sweet spirit" into meaning anything other than the intention of the giver.
We are all many things. Sometimes I am impatient, sometimes I am judgmental, sometimes I am indecisive. We are many layers and levels and ingredients. If I happen to be sweet, so be it. The dictionary says sweet is lovely and pleasant.
If someone told me I had a pleasant or lovely spirit, I would be flattered. I think they mean the same thing with the word sweet.
So let me own it. I am smart, capable, and professional. And sweet. How about you? What has taken you a while to embrace?
It's interesting for me to witness others grow to massive success and the key, besides good business acumen, is being one's true self. The more people simply be themselves, the more successful they are.
I tell people to write honestly and let their essence come forth. If you are feisty, you better write feisty. Look in the mirror and say I am smart, capable, and professional. And feisty.
I am smart, capable, and professional. And sweet.
Whatever it is that may have ruffled your feathers, look at it now and honor it. Your turn: I am smart, capable, and professional. And (fill in your blank.)
Say it every morning looking the mirror and notice the change in you. Bravo to us all!
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