Building Your Self-Confidence at Work
Many people wish they felt more secure
about their abilities on the job. In other words, they're looking for increased
self-confidence when it comes to performing the work, dealing with coworkers,
and handling tough situations. If you're one of these people, you're not alone.
What can you do to feel more self-assured about your job?
First, remember that you are not your job.
That is, if you make a mistake at work, this does not mean that you are stupid,
worthless, or that you're in the wrong position. It's all too easy to take
mistakes personally, seeing them as a reflection of your true person rather
than for what it is: a mistake. Even though it may not always appear so,
everyone makes mistakes from time to time. The best way to deal with a mistake
is to own up to it right away and present a solution. This shows that you are
honest, and by presenting ways to fix the problem, your boss can send you on
your way to deal with the issue. Acting honestly and straightforwardly is best
for you--you'll feel better about yourself--and best for the company (which
again will help you feel better).
Another common issue is feeling insecure
when it comes to coworkers. Many people feel that they do not fit in, are
unsure how to handle conflict, or have an overbearing coworker or boss that
they don't know how to communicate with. Any of these feelings can wear at your
self-esteem. You may feel you have nothing to offer the group, whether socially
or on projects, you avoid conflict, and may allow others to step on you. If
socialization is a problem, it will require you to step out of your comfort
zone a bit. This does not mean you need to jump right in with a large company
gathering; rather, take it slow by opening conversations with one or two
coworkers. Chances are you'll have something in common. Asking questions about
the other person is always a great way to go; just avoid questions with simple
yes or no answers.
When dealing with conflict resolution and
difficult employees, learning some proven communication techniques may be
necessary. Consider attending a course on conflict resolution and dealing with
difficult people. In the meantime, remember that the overbearing person likely
has a lot of insecurities as well, and these are what cause the behavior. In
the midst of conflict, do your best to avoid being pulled into argumentative
situations. Don't reward the other person's behavior by getting upset or
immediately backing down. If necessary, say you'll continue the conversation when
everyone has had a chance to cool down. Dealing with negative coworkers is
never fun. Try and remember that your self worth is not dependent on the
coworker's approval, even if that person is your boss.
It could be you're feeling unsure about
your skills. This one is pretty easy--learn more! Many companies offer
continuing education options, will pay for schooling, or offer professional
development in house. Whatever your employer offers, take advantage. If your
company does not have this option, find some good books on the subject. Ask
your colleagues for suggestions, or if you're a member of any type of
professional group, seek advice there as well. Many of your peers will have
good suggestions on what's worth looking into.
Finally, give yourself some challenges. One
great way to build your self confidence at work is to take on a special project
or extra work. If you choose something you feel passionate about or something
in your specialty area, you can show yourself and your colleagues that you are
able to produce results. Even if you fail, you're showing initiative and
willingness by taking on special projects. Knowing that you put yourself out
there, rather than sitting on the sidelines, can be a great confidence booster.
And the same can be said for when it goes well.
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