how to Controlling your Anger
Controlling your anger is not always easy. It
is important when a person has anger problems to try to talk to the person.
Avoid losing your temper yourself since this will only cause another problem.
When a person has anger issues then that person puts others in danger and if we lose our control then we have a seriously chaotic situation that could lead to
violence. If you have a child that has anger issues, it makes sense to keep the
chain of communication open. Sit your child down and talk with him or her
attempting to find out what is making the child frustrated. Do not wait until
the child is out of control and then try to talk.
This only fuses the person
often. Wait until the child cools down and then ask him or her what they feel
caused the interruption. You might want to search your own area of contact with
the child to see if anything you said or did made the child angry. This will
help you to avoid this the next time you and your child are together. My child
had anger problems and he was told to take a walk or a cool down period before
addressing the issues. Of course, my child had mental illnesses underlying the
anger and this contributed to the problems we endured. Self-talk and talking is
always helpful when we are dealing with anger. Try to find the source of the
anger by talking through the problem.
Some recommend the angered person counts
to 10 or 15, however if there is an underlying cause then this does not always
work. The best solution is finding what works for you. It is also recommended
that the child play a game, such as PlayStation, Nintendo or other game console
and play until your anger ceases. Again, this works for some of us, but not all
of us. A great technique I found valuable was drawing the source of your anger
if possible. Writing, self-talk, talk, art, and music has proven in my
experience to be more effective verses the other types of techniques offered. Exercise
is also great. Running around the block, riding a bike, or going for a walk has
proven helpful for eliminating anger for some individuals. Dance is great for
relieving anger. Dance is a natural source of getting in touch with your
feeling.
If you ever wondered what the term she’s
got soul means, well when you dance, feel the music and adhere to the steps
of the beat then you got soul. There is nothing like the boogie fever since it
relieves stress, tension, anxiety and makes your body and mind feel good since
you did something constructive. If you must vent your frustration on something,
get a punching bag or else beat the heck out of your pillow.
Some great advice
came from health fitness experts when they advice me to enlist my child in Kick
Boxing, Boxing, or Wrestling. This is said to teach the person control. Karate
is another recommended source for helping a person deal with anger. The problem
is when we are dealing with anger; we must get the other person to cooperate.
Since most persons angered will find an excuse why the techniques provided to
them does not work, it is important to get them to understand their anger, the
problems and how the techniques can benefit them if they apply themselves Crying
is good for relieving stress and anger also; however, this is not always
suitable for everyone. My children were raised understanding that it is ok to
cry regardless of gender.
Therefore, we need to teach our children regardless
of gender that it is ok to express your emotions and feelings. That is not a disgrace;
rather it is a developing of character strategy that works best for us all. Emotions
when suppressed will create more problems for the people in society; therefore,
it is important to address your feelings and emotions when they arise. Dealing
with the problems when they arise is the best solution for dealing with
emotions. Controlling your anger is not always easy, but it is possible.
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